What Is Bullying?
Bullying is a type of disruptive behavior. Disruptive behaviors can occur across the lifespan from toddlerhood to late adulthood (Lachman, 2015). Disruptive behaviors include:
- horizontal/lateral violence.
Bullying typically involves a power imbalance, repetitive and intentional actions.
Four Types of Bullies
- Insecure – feels inferior
- Unremorseful – malicious towards victim without regret for bullying behavior
- Narrcisist – arrogant and self-righteous personality
- Impulsive – inability to effectively cope with stressors, challenges and medical conditions
Six Types of Bullying
- Physical Bullying includes physical contact such as hitting, kicking, tripping, pinching and pushing, or damaging property.
- Verbal Bullying includes verbal abuse such as insulting, name calling, teasing, intimidating, homophobic or racist remarks.
- Social or Emotional Bullying includes covert or hidden bullying with behavioral actions intended to harm a person’s reputation or cause humiliation: lying and spreading rumors, negative facial gestures, playing mean jokes to embarrass or humiliate a person, mimicking a person in a negative way, encouraging social exclusion of a person. This is also referred to as relational aggression.
- Cyberbullying includes utilization of the internet to taunt or humiliate a person. To accomplish this, cyberbullies use social media, such as Facebook and Twitter, as well as cruel websites, humiliating a person while playing online games, verbal and emotional bullying through chat rooms, instant messaging, texting, or posting photos with malicious intent.
- Sexual Bullying includes actions that are repetitive, harmful and sexually humiliating to a person. These actions can encompass verbal, physical, relational aggression and cyberbullying such as sexual name calling, vulgar comments, crude sexual gestures, touching without consent, sexual propositioning and pornographic materials. Sexual bullying can lead to sexual assault.
- Prejudicial Bullying includes bullying directed towards people of different races, religions or sexual orientation. Prejudicial bullying can lead to hate crimes.
Where Can Bullying Occur?
Bullying can occur anywhere. It can occur in the school setting, public places such as the mall, workplace environment, on the computer through the internet, or on the phone via texting.
Strategies to Cope with Bullies
- In workplace environment, follow your chain-of-command for reporting a grievance.
- Talk with trusted friends and family for support and avoid isolation.
- Record and document the bullying by saving evidence.
- Expect the bully to deny allegations of bullying.
- Prevent communication with the bully, as much as possible, particularly with cyberbullying. Block their email address, cell phone number, delete them from social media contacts. Report bullying activities to their internet service provider (ISP) or to any social media or other web sites they use to target you. The cyberbully’s actions may constitute a violation of the website’s terms of service. In instances of slander or libel, bullies can be prosecuted for criminal charges of defamation.
- Set an example. You do not have to stoop to the intellectual, mental and emotional level of the bully
- Ensure you learn effective methods to manage stress.
- Focus your time on pleasurable activities.
- Give yourself time to heal from the bullying.
- Prevent bullying in the future generation by encouraging empathy with children.
What are some specific effective strategies for coping with bullies? Post your ideas in the comments below.
Lachman, V. D. (2015). Ethical Issues in the Disruptive Behaviors of Incivility, Bullying, And Horizontal/Lateral Violence. Urologic Nursing, 35(1), 39-42.
National Centre Against Bullying. (n.d.). Retrieved September 19, 2015, from http://www.ncab.org.au/parents/typesofbullying
Weber, M. R. (2015). Adult Bullying. Education Digest, 80(7), 32-36.
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